Christian Husbands and Wives

I’m not sure I have seen a day when the family has been more under attack than today. I have been pondering the question “Why?” I believe I have come to a conclusion to that question. IN Ephesians 5:21-33 (our text for Sunday) we are told that the husband wife relationship mirrors the relationship that exists between Christ and the church. That being the case, that relationship is to mirror on numerous levels what the gospel is like. When the family suffers, and especially when the relationship between a Christian husband and wife is in disrepair, the veracity of the gospel is called into question. This Sunday we are going to be looking at the principle passage in the Bible on the relationship between a Christian husband and wife – Ephesians 5:21-33. Please be praying for this Sunday and the families in our church. In the mean time, why don’t you take some time and reflect on what the bible says about the relationship between husbands and wives in the following scriptures.

See You Sunday,

Pastor Byron

Husband and Wife

The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone; I will make a helper suitable for him.” And the Lord God made a woman from the rib He had taken out of the man, and He brought her to the man. And the man said, “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘Woman,’ because she was taken out of man.” For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. (Genesis 2:18, 22–24)

A virtuous wife is the crown of her husband, but she who causes shame is like decay in his bones. (Proverbs 12:4)

Houses and wealth are inherited from fathers, but a prudent wife is from the Lord. (Proverbs 19:14)

Who can find a virtuous wife? She is worth far more than jewels. The heart of her husband trusts in her so that he has no lack of gain. She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life. (Proverbs 31:10–12)

Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praised. (Proverbs 31:30)

Love is as strong as death, and jealousy is as cruel as the grave; its flames are flames of fire, a flame of the Lord. Many waters cannot quench love, nor can rivers overflow it. If a man were to give all the wealth of his house for love, it would be utterly scorned. (Song of Solomon 8:6–7)

Since she is a companion and a wife by covenant, a husband should not deal treacherously against the wife of his youth. The Lord God of hosts seeks a godly offspring and hates divorce; therefore we must take heed to our spirit and not deal treacherously. (Malachi 2:14–16)

From the beginning of creation God made them male and female. For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and shall cleave to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh. So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate. (Matthew 19:4–6; Mark 10:6–9)

The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife’s body does not belong to her alone, but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband’s body does not belong to him alone, but also to his wife. (1 Corinthians 7:3–4)

Wives should submit to their own husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ also is the head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body. But as the church is subject to Christ, so also wives should be to their husbands in everything. (Ephesians 5:22–24)

Husbands should love their wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her that He might sanctify and cleanse her by the washing with water through the word, that He might present her to Himself as a glorious church, without spot or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself; for no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ also does the church, for we are members of His body. (Ephesians 5:25–30)

Each husband must love his own wife as he loves himself, and each wife must respect her husband. (Ephesians 5:33)

Wives should submit to their husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. (Colossians 3:18)

Husbands should love their wives and not be bitter toward them. (Colossians 3:19)

Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed should be undefiled; for God will judge fornicators and adulterers. (Hebrews 13:4)

Wives should be submissive to their own husbands, so that even if any of them disobey the word, they may be won without a word by the behavior of their wives, when they see their purity and reverence. (1 Peter 3:1–2)

Husbands should be considerate as they live with their wives and treat them with respect as the weaker vessel and as co-heirs of the grace of life. (1 Peter 3:7)